Veteran Actor Olu Jacobs, who has turned 71
recently, explained in the interview with TheNetng how he and his wife, Joke
Silva, were able to maintain their marriage for 27 years and receive the tag of
“Nollywood’s most celebrated couple”.
Read
the abstract of the interview below:
Meeting
the Future Wife
I
was having a meeting at the National Theatre and the door opened a young lady
came in. I looked at her. I have never met her before in my life and I said to
the people in the room ‘ladies and gentlemen, this is the lady I am going to
marry’. Everybody laughed. She looked at me up and down, hissed and left.
Today, she is my wife and that was 27 years ago.
The
Secret of Long-Lasting Marriage
It
is God. There
are other forces outside that you need to take cognizance of but when you do,
you have to make sure that they don’t take control over your life. You are now
thinking for two. No decision you take should be for yourself alone. It’s for
two and it must remain for two. You have to always remember that. If my wife
goes out, and she finds out that she would not be able to make it back at the
time she initially thought she would, she picks up the phone and calls me to
tell me. Fine! You are thinking for two, she knows where I am, I know where she
is. We still do this till tomorrow. Communicating like that helps a lot, once
we are talking, you have an idea of where I am and I have an idea of where you
are. I am not saying that it should be every minute calls. Sometimes just being
together in a room not necessarily saying anything is also important.
The Art of Resolving Quarrels
The Art of Resolving Quarrels
You
learn not to pick on anything your partner says. It interferes with the
relationship. If something happens and you want to discuss it, discuss it till
the two of you resolve it. Why won’t we argue? I have a mind, she has a mind so
why shouldn’t we argue. We must argue but as we do so, we must finish up that
argument so we can start another one. We must quarrel, it is resolving it that
is the task. Anybody can fight but how many can sit down and resolve it? You
must finish one fight before another and you cannot jump because if you jump it
will pull you back. We thank God and pray to him to continue to guide us and
give us the wisdom to relate properly, and to be as fair and honest as
possible. Apart from that, we just take it as it comes.
About
Wife Maintaining Her Maiden Name.
She
is her own individual. When I met her, she was an actress known as Joke
Silva so why should marrying me now deny her and her audience her name. She
is Miss Joke Silva who is Mrs. Joke Jacobs. It is as simple as that. People
now begin to say what they like. They have even written that we are separated
and all sort of stuffs. When she is working, she is Joke Silva but she is Mrs.
Joke Jacobs at home.
The
Things Olu Jacobs Likes / Dislikes About Her Wife
Sometimes, she insists on things.
Even when we have resolved it, she will still bring it back. She thinks more of
others. She will think of you and remind you of things that need to be reminded
of. She is always happy to help anybody. For her it’s not an effort. She cares
a lot and of course, we are all boys in the house so she mothers all of us.
That’s the way, we handle it, so whatever we need to do, we discuss it.
